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jenni
21-01--2006, 07:58 PM
in a year group of 300 i know three girls who've had abortions, two guys with STIs and only about twenty to thirty virgins, including the ones who say they're not.

this disturbs me, but what's even more terrifying is the way they talk about sex - it seems more about a competition than an expression of love

the guys don't enjoy it 'cos theyre too busy worrying that they won't get it right or the chick'll say derogatory stuff about the size of their dicks....

and the girls are all so body conscious that they do it a dark room and get a little drunk beforehand to make em feel better about it....


what's the point of sex if you don't enjoy it? why are teenagers so far off when it comes to reasons to have sex? should i just shut my mouth and leave them to infect each other or do i have a point?

don't get me wrong - nothing against sex - just, you know....

Sarah
21-01--2006, 08:08 PM
ahhh things never change mate :) was the same when I was 16 - its a hormonal thing I think ;)
I always got round it by being deliberatley aloof.. gawd I wish I could re-capture some of my brilliant aloofness from being 16.. very blunt and sarcastic I was and never had any embarresment to deal with.. I always seemed to have a knack of making the ones who weren't still virgins feel like sluts and come away with me head held high.. don't remember how now :o Yeah you do have a point and the important part of that point is that you get it... you are holding on to something pretty wonderful about sex and that is that it is sooooo much better with someone you actually care about more than simply the act itself. Good on you mate!!! And I can guarantee that 10 years down the line, those of them that were tarting it about now will be envious of you for having the attitude you have... they'll learn the hard way ;) In my experience you can't tell people these things they have to work it out for themselves - teenagers have been doing this for years. If I were you I would keep shtoom or try and adopt some cutting sarcasm (damn really wish I could remember some tips for you) to get your point across :reddevil:

Love n Sunshine
Sarah xxx

jenni
21-01--2006, 08:38 PM
right, sarcasm....
that'll work....

hey, i'm pretty good at this!

thanks dudette

Chazz
21-01--2006, 09:05 PM
Yep, nice answer StarFly:D

Exedous
21-01--2006, 09:15 PM
It's better to keep quiet and have people think you stupid, than to talk and remove all doubt...{Mark Twain}

Ghost

Dapablo
21-01--2006, 09:39 PM
Nice to hear someone speak the words jenni. Good luck to you. :)

pretty polly
25-01--2006, 04:41 PM
i completly agree with jenni, its just so sickening and sad to hear "children" because they are talk in this way. due to living in essex i hear loads of girls talking like it more than the boys. maybe its the female rivalry....ahhh well silly people,they need to grow up and think more

Whirler
25-01--2006, 08:02 PM
Obviously sex has always been an issue throughout the centuries but I wonder how much 'pop' music has an influence on the attitudes of young teenagers. Music videos and dancers are based solely on sex and it just seems so much more provocative than it used to be and really lacks in subtlety, what sort of messages are kids receiving?

ecomamma
25-01--2006, 08:24 PM
Obviously sex has always been an issue throughout the centuries but I wonder how much 'pop' music has an influence on the attitudes of young teenagers. Music videos and dancers are based solely on sex and it just seems so much more provocative than it used to be and really lacks in subtlety, what sort of messages are kids receiving?

Same as we did with Madonna!:rolleyes:

Rook
25-01--2006, 09:11 PM
Yep, nice answer StarFly:D


Yup! As the dad of a 16year old girl its been freaking me out for years. Im not saying that we should pretend it isnt all raging hormones at those ages but society does push sex to younger and younger people. Little girls in heals and minnie skirts. We all know why such things were made and it wasnt aimed at ten year olds!

Dont you think it shows the devine has a sence of humour. Guys and lassess get hormones that make them want to shag anything in sight and at the same time develop raging zits that puts everything in sight off! Built in contraception! hee hee :reddevil:

Whirler
25-01--2006, 09:13 PM
Same as we did with Madonna!:rolleyes:Speak for yourself!!! :harhar:

ecomamma
26-01--2006, 01:13 AM
Yes I had the hairbrush in front of the mirror to like a virgin....altho i wasnt a teen. Teens are when the real confusion starts, i suggest getting into self defense..its a good excuse to beat the crap out of the boys & be street safe...in fact I should listen to my own advice! Channel that hormonal stuff....

generic
27-01--2006, 04:43 AM
in a year group of 300 i know three girls who've had abortions, two guys with STIs and only about twenty to thirty virgins, including the ones who say they're not.

this disturbs me, but what's even more terrifying is the way they talk about sex - it seems more about a competition than an expression of love

the guys don't enjoy it 'cos theyre too busy worrying that they won't get it right or the chick'll say derogatory stuff about the size of their dicks....

and the girls are all so body conscious that they do it a dark room and get a little drunk beforehand to make em feel better about it....


what's the point of sex if you don't enjoy it? why are teenagers so far off when it comes to reasons to have sex? should i just shut my mouth and leave them to infect each other or do i have a point?

don't get me wrong - nothing against sex - just, you know....

What do you expect from mainstream soceity? Their way of thinking is so locked up by prejudices, outside influences, arbitrary rules, social pressures and an uncontrollabe urge to conform, that unhappiness and unfulfilling lifestyle choices are inevitable. I know a lot of people like this too(actually 99.99% of people out there are like this) and it's not surprising they have these hang ups about sex and many other topics because they haven't yet, and unfortunately most likely never will, freed their minds.

jenni
30-01--2006, 05:08 PM
Stupid teenagers....


Dont you think it shows the devine has a sence of humour. Guys and lassess get hormones that make them want to shag anything in sight and at the same time develop raging zits that puts everything in sight off! Built in contraception! hee hee :reddevil:

Unfortunately the morons take it as a reason to feel more insecure and ironically this adds to the need to have sex as a way of feeling 'good' about themselves!:rolleyes:

Calling them morons probably wouldn't help either.

Dan
20-03--2006, 04:10 PM
I'm a virgin and proud of it as a result of being Christian sex is meaningful for teenagers not all alot of my friends are in deeply commited relationships with loving sex so there! nah!

miszt
04-04--2006, 05:57 PM
i think it has just as much to do with our countries embaressed attitude to sex as it does to do with hormones.

Remeber reading an artical a reporter did on going to see the statue of David, he noticed a family all laugh *together* when one of the daughters pointed out his naked dick.....its not hard to imagine an english parents response to that situation, red face, embaressed look, and quickly drag the kids away from it before anyone notices that they have noticed that david had a penis!

ok mayb I'm stereotyping, I'm sure there are lots of families with a more reasonable attitude to sex, but as a country its rediculus.

We cant have sex in the country side? FFS. Get over it UK, we all do it, and yes, ~50% of us have penis'z. sorry if thats a shock.


hmm rant over lol...sorry, but it really does drive me crazy that our countries attempts to drive the 'sordid act of sex' into the 'underground' is resulting in kids not knowing what the hell its all about, and girls being to embarassed or un-empowered to demand that there bf uses a condom, etc etc...I could go on, but I'll end up getting wound up again :D

Whirler
04-04--2006, 06:12 PM
and girls being to embarassed or un-empowered to demand that there bf uses a condomI think that's quite an interesting point you've raised. I was lucky insomuch as my mum talked openly about sex to me and I had an older sister who was forced into a lot of stuff when she was a teenager and between them I was taught to not be pressured into doing something I don't want to do. I was also aware of std's and pregnancy so condoms were sensible and the only thing to use. However, I often felt a lot of pressure off boyfriends to do things I wasn't ready for or simply didn't want to do - when you're alone with a lustful boy/man who won't shut the fuck up it, and you're quite unsure and insecure, what do you do? Even as I got older some blokes would really be against condoms and although I never gave in (waaaaaay too sensible)I can imagine how someone less confident could bow to pressure.

Self-respect, confidence and awareness of consequences should be a top priority of things we teach to the young. And some of the old too! :D

Marlboro
04-04--2006, 08:41 PM
I say let teenagers get on with what they want. If they want to wake up the morning after and find out they've got pregnant/STD/parents on their backs/regret, then it's their own fault, I'm sure the parents must of warned them. What ever happened to sex after marriage..

Whirler
04-04--2006, 08:45 PM
What ever happened to sex after marriage..It's a myth. :D

Ms. Vee
04-04--2006, 09:44 PM
I say let teenagers get on with what they want. If they want to wake up the morning after and find out they've got pregnant/STD/parents on their backs/regret, then it's their own fault, I'm sure the parents must of warned them. What ever happened to sex after marriage..

I don't think it's as simple as "if bad stuff happens to them, then that's their problem". What's more important is understanding why teens are having so much unprotected sex in the first place and what can be done to educate them. Don't get me wrong, I'm not 'letting them off' as such - I do think you're pretty damn stupid to have unprotected sex with people you barely know - I just think that saying "who cares? they deserve it" isn't helping to get to the root of the problem.

onelove
04-04--2006, 10:09 PM
I think it's the pack mentality. Most of my friends from school were shagging as many different people as possible for the hell if it when they were 11. I was more bothered about sticking guns n roses pictures on my jotter. Sad thing is this mentality is still with most of them now, I think they get trapped in it and know nothing else.

Javelin
11-04--2006, 02:20 PM
Stupid teenagers....
A-men. *cough*

I do agree, it can get very sad. Most of my freinds have a better idea of what they want now rather than what they think they should be doing.
I had enough fun over the last few years being pretty quiet and laughing at all the stories that flew around.

Better to let them do their own thing and simply find other like minded people. It helps to keep you sane (or insane as the case may be).;)

Golaf
11-04--2006, 05:43 PM
and they are all so ugly arnt they

Javelin
11-04--2006, 07:05 PM
and they are all so ugly arnt they Does it improve with age?

Cukkuululu
18-04--2006, 04:52 PM
I was horrified to see that way two teenage "chav" girls were behaving at a party I went to reciently... They must have been about 18... they were dressed in tight cropped jeans, and some kind of basque creations that pushed their boobs up under their chins... and as the night progressed got more and more drunk... myself and a friend were sat chilling out only to see these girls sat on a bench a few feet away from us, each straddling a leg of an enormasly fat spotty chav in a tracksuit! They were re-enacting what looked like a scene from a porn film... writhing on his legs, shaking their boobs in his face, kissing him, then each other... whilst he put his hands wherever he liked... On being told firmly to calm it by the club owner, one of them exclamed "I was dancing with the wall, innit!" They had a gathering of boys (and men) actuly squaring up to each other over them by the end of the night... and managed to break a toilet, getting them the bollocking they deserved... which resulted in them trying to blame each other... denying they were doing anything offensive and one saying, "but I have a boyfriend, I'm not like that"!

I have to admit I found it incredably offensive, but most of all I felt sorry for the girls... do they think that is the only way to go out and have a good time? After helping one up after she fell over in the loos yet again, I wispered "please go home" to her, and she looked at me like I was mad...

Hairbear
19-04--2006, 08:58 PM
Well...you know what...i think she has a point..jenni that is...

Sex isnt meant(in my opinion) to be something that is desired by horny teenagers, and the trouble today is that it is basicly a competition, that or some weird fad..like yo yo's..just less up and down...:whistle: that or Tazzos :D

Anyways...i think that teenages today are using sex as a form of popularity, i have noticed that in my sixthform/collage the popular people, are normaly the ones who have had more then one 'partner'.

Its odd is all...

I think sex is a form of love and for two souls to bond...yes it is for pleasure dont get me wrong...but its also a form of beauty and a form of passion...

But yeah..just thought i would contribute

Javelin
19-04--2006, 09:06 PM
Yes, basically it shouldn't be hollow or something you feel the need to brag about.

Hairbear
19-04--2006, 09:15 PM
yeah pretty much...:D

Javelin
19-04--2006, 09:19 PM
"Fuck you and your frantically fucking ways!"

Poltergeists
10-06--2006, 09:46 PM
If ya want it try and get it

If ya want it to feel good wait til uv met the rite person!!

trin
11-06--2006, 12:42 AM
I say let teenagers get on with what they want. If they want to wake up the morning after and find out they've got pregnant/STD/parents on their backs/regret, then it's their own fault, I'm sure the parents must of warned them.That's a big (and in many many cases, wrong) assumption you're making there. My daughter's 15 and has decided for herself she's just not interested, but there's several of her mates we've needed to talk stuff through with just because they can't discuss such things with their parents.


What ever happened to sex after marriage..
What about those who don't want to get married - does that mean they should abstain from sex?

Lesa-Marie
18-06--2006, 11:57 PM
I don't think it's a county thing, however pleasingly easy that'd be...It's mostly talk with young teenagers and the ones I knew which did more than just talk now have fullfilling lives as doped up singled mums of two or three...:(


due to living in essex i hear loads of girls talking like it more than the boys