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Firinne
19-10--2005, 05:12 PM
Of all the threads on the forum so far this one had to be the most heated, so it's definitely worth carrying on with - let's keep it on topic and free from the personal insults this time round though.

So, what is it about anal sex that appeals to you ... or disgusts you?
Would you view someone in a different way having read/heard that they enjoy anal sex? If so, why?
What do you think makes it such an intense topic?
It's definitely something people feel strongly about, and if we can get all those points of views out in a open-minded way we might all learn something.

So, kicking off ...

My take on it is pretty much that it can be enjoyable for both people, but it can also be messy/dangerous and that makes it something a lot of people don't want to try.
On a a different level (social fear), the association of anal sex with homosexuality makes some men absolutely terrified of trying it in case they find they like it and that leads to fears about their sexuality or assumptions from their peers that they're closet homosexuals.
I think the stigma associated with it is what makes it such an intense topic, I wonder ... if there's such a widespread belief throughout society that nice girls don't do it and if men enjoy it they must be gay to what extent that pervading viewpoint affects our reactions on the subject.

Would anyone feel uncomfortable admitting to practicing or enjoying anal sex?

What is it that would make you feel that way?

crap muppet
19-10--2005, 05:23 PM
I'm glad your keeping the topic going.

I personally don't think its anything to be ashamed about in this day and age.

I'm straight and wouldn't take it up the bum as its not really my bag (I'm not gey/bi) but I've had a couple of ex's ask and I've obliged - I had no problem with giving.

Word of warning from experience for the ladies though - one of them was determined to then go back and forth between the holes despite my attempts to stop it and she ended up being v.v.v.v. ill for the rest of the night. It wasn't pleasant! :barf:

Atomik
19-10--2005, 05:48 PM
I really don't see the attraction in fucking a woman up the arse. I suspect that a lot of the anal sex imagery that's pushed by the porn industry is more about power and domination than sensuality. Ultimately, the bum just isn't designed to cope with that kinda activity. Your sphincter is not an area you wanna be doing damage to! One word - seapage :vomit:

ecomamma
19-10--2005, 05:53 PM
Would you view someone in a different way having read/heard that they enjoy anal sex? If so, why?
What do you think makes it such an intense topic?
It's definitely something people feel strongly about, and if we can get all those points of views out in a open-minded way we might all learn something.

Not at all, Im interested in the fact people enjoy it! Why cause Im pervey :broc:

Cause in a way its going against the grain, I guess its the best form of contraception & that will piss the christians off!;)

Im so not up for it, im not even interested in trying it once I just feel its not for me even if Im missing out on some fantastic orgasm. Im quite happy with the ones I have!:insane:

What a night of passion crap muppet:barf: lucky u

matthew
19-10--2005, 06:18 PM
I thought all hippys got upto anal sex.. expressing there love in multiple different ways.. Not conforming to many boundaries.. while mildly high on 'pot'... I guess everybody no matter who they are has limits.



I really don't see the attraction in fucking a woman up the arse. I suspect that a lot of the anal sex imagery that's pushed by the porn industry is more about power and domination than sensuality.


I think thats what 'liberaly' minded folk like to think and possibly it has a element of truth.. Though nowadays women have greater control of what they do and don't do.. Even choreographing [within porn films] what happens in there 'scenes'..
From the many i have seen over the years..:whistle: they don't seem to mind one bit..
I think it might be viewed as a step back and 'what are these poor women letting those pigs do to them'.. But thats not confronting the fact that women enjoy it.

ecomamma
19-10--2005, 06:32 PM
I thought all hippys got upto anal sex.. expressing there love in multiple different ways.. Not conforming to many boundaries.. while mildly high on 'pot'... I guess everybody no matter who they are has limits.

your so funny Mathew:reddevil:

Firinne
19-10--2005, 06:37 PM
I really don't see the attraction in fucking a woman up the arse. I suspect that a lot of the anal sex imagery that's pushed by the porn industry is more about power and domination than sensuality.

I definitely agree with that, domination has been a large feature for people I've known that are into anal sex. That's part of the put-off for me I think, I've heard so many rape horror stories where anal sex is featured that on some level I think I've formed a cognitive link between the two acts.
I suppose it could be sensual in the right circumstances, with the right person, but I think personally I prefer the "traditional methods".

Firinne
19-10--2005, 06:38 PM
Word of warning from experience for the ladies though - one of them was determined to then go back and forth between the holes despite my attempts to stop it and she ended up being v.v.v.v. ill for the rest of the night. It wasn't pleasant! :barf:

Crikey, that's the quickest route to a multitude of infections.
Which is another point, surely if it has that effect on a female there's the potential for nasty infections for men that indulge as well?

matthew
19-10--2005, 06:42 PM
Crikey, that's the quickest route to a multitude of infections.
Which is another point, surely if it has that effect on a female there's the potential for nasty infections for men that indulge as well?

Not to bring the thread down..but i have seen arse/vagina/mouth.. and many combination of the three...now thats not for me.


your so funny Mathew:reddevil:

It has a element of a truth [i always thought].. though.:whistle:

Firinne
19-10--2005, 06:46 PM
Not to bring the thread down..but i have seen arse/vagina/mouth.. and many combination of the three...now thats not for me.

With you on that one, where sensuality's concerned it's best to steer clear of anything that reminds me of biology class. Bleurrrgh.

matthew
19-10--2005, 07:08 PM
I wonder ... if there's such a widespread belief throughout society that nice girls don't do it and if men enjoy it they must be gay to what extent that pervading viewpoint affects our reactions on the subject.


I reckon 'nice girls' love it.. though that might be just a fantasy of mine.. ?


Would anyone feel uncomfortable admitting to practicing or enjoying anal sex?


Practicing ? NO... admitting YES.. for all the reasons you have already highlighted..I guess it is still a 'odd' practice if your not gay.


What is it that would make you feel that way?

Peers

Firinne
19-10--2005, 09:55 PM
I reckon 'nice girls' love it.. though that might be just a fantasy of mine.. ?

Not according to mainstream society, but then mainstream society has a twisted idea of what constitutes a nice girl


Practicing ? NO... admitting YES.. for all the reasons you have already highlighted..I guess it is still a 'odd' practice if your not gay.

I wonder though, for there to be so many porn movies involving anal sex with women there must be a demand for them - after all they'd not make movies no-one's likely to buy. It's probably one of those things that's a common fantasy, but the statistics just haven't caught up with the reality yet because it isn't freely discussed.

Oooh, I feel a poll coming on .. ;)

crap muppet
20-10--2005, 07:34 AM
What a night of passion crap muppet:barf: lucky u

Tell me about it. Put me well and truly off...

crap muppet
20-10--2005, 07:36 AM
Crikey, that's the quickest route to a multitude of infections.
Which is another point, surely if it has that effect on a female there's the potential for nasty infections for men that indulge as well?

I think the lesson got learned :o

matthew
20-10--2005, 06:03 PM
[quote=Firinne]Not according to mainstream society, but then mainstream society has a twisted idea of what constitutes a nice girl



Thats true..:confused:



I wonder though, for there to be so many porn movies involving anal sex with women there must be a demand for them - after all they'd not make movies no-one's likely to buy. It's probably one of those things that's a common fantasy, but the statistics just haven't caught up with the reality yet because it isn't freely discussed.

Oooh, I feel a poll coming on .. ;)

Just like 'barely legal' 'teenage sex partys' and 'fun in the changing rooms'
It helps sell.. If you have it on the cover ov the video.
It probably has a lot to do with being able to have better images than having to put the camera in awkward positions to see penetration..I won't go on as you may think i work in the 'industry' :wink3: or have a unhealthy obssesion with porn.:wink3:

Perthite
22-10--2005, 02:26 PM
i like it my girlfriend likes it *shrugs* we don't do it very often at all but it's fun when we do;)

Whirler
24-10--2005, 10:07 PM
I wonder though, for there to be so many porn movies involving anal sex with women there must be a demand for them - after all they'd not make movies no-one's likely to buy. It's probably one of those things that's a common fantasy, but the statistics just haven't caught up with the reality yet because it isn't freely discussed.

Oooh, I feel a poll coming on .. ;)They make porn movies with animals in too.......apparently that's a common fantasy, although in Somerset, it can be a reality......:piggy:

Firinne
25-10--2005, 02:12 AM
They make porn movies with animals in too.......apparently that's a common fantasy, although in Somerset, it can be a reality......:piggy:


Same in Devon, why d'ya think the Dartmoor ponies are so feisty ;)

TheFly
25-10--2005, 02:26 PM
Hey, if anybody like to take it up the gary glitter, they should be allowed to do whatever they enjoy as long it is between two consenting adults...

Fly...

the dj
25-10--2005, 03:50 PM
They make porn movies with animals in too.......apparently that's a common fantasy, although in Somerset, it can be a reality......:piggy:


I knew someone loosely, once, who had shagged a dog. She was a very sick woman.



Hey, if anybody like to take it up the gary glitter, they should be allowed to do whatever they enjoy as long it is between two consenting adults...

Fly...

I think this is true. As for the thing about the sphincter not being upto it - most people smoke, drink and do other stuff that damages our insides and such - people won't stop something they enjoy and knowing many gay men I am told there are ways of preventing a total ass-meltdown.

But mostly I'd say everyone should just get on with what they do like and not worry about what others do. I hav had anal (I'm female) and only enjoyed it when I was so drunk I'd have shagged a dishcloth if it made 'dirty sex' (well - you get my gist right?) - I don't like it but I have been with a bloke who has liked it and not fancied men. I have also known male friends who have ass toys for blokes who aren't gay but know their bodies and what pleasures them. I say 'go you' if you're not even gay but have at least tried it with an open mind. And if you don't want to, never feel pressured. It's your body.

Now, where's the personals thread...

phil
29-11--2005, 03:27 PM
Nothing wrong with it as far as i'm concerned. I've done it with a few ex girlfriends and it has always been initiated by them. It's gone like this.......they ask if i've ever done it and i answer honestly, yes, then maybe they ask who, how many, was it good etc and they start puttin pressure on themselves to do it as well. To be honest i can understand this. if a girlfriend of mine had done something with an ex that we hadn't and she'd enjoyed it, we'd be doing it soon enough for sure or i'd feel inadiquate, especially if i liked her. sorry if this makes me a prick but just being honest. finally wouldn't bother me if i did or didnt ever do it again, would depend on her.
ps this is what face looks like during :eek: hee hee

josh
30-11--2005, 06:22 PM
ditto phil's experiences

Chazz
01-12--2005, 01:55 PM
Two partners have loved it, as an occasional.

apparently there's the pituary gland that gets stimulated, so I'm told.

Lots of good lubrication and sensitivity on entering definatly required, and she needs to be able to relax her muscles.

If we're continuing afterwards, I always go for a very good wash, cos although its not often you see erm.. colouration... it's definatly an important hygiene point.

It does seem that an orgasm for a girl from anal sex (I've never done it with a guy) is very intense and yes those eyes glass over and it seems to get her near to passing out.

I have enjoyed her finger stimulating me in the ass many times, again with lubrication, it's a hard sensation to describe. Quite seperate from the sensations I get from my cock.http://www.gibnet.gi/%7Eherwin/images/bowl.gif

Something where there should never be pressure to go for it from 'the entrant', its 'the entered' who's gotta feel hot for it.

Whirler
01-12--2005, 06:51 PM
It does seem that an orgasm for a girl from anal sex (I've never done it with a guy) is very intense and yes those eyes glass over and it seems to get her near to passing out.

LOL that happens to me during vaginal penetration!

Dapablo
01-12--2005, 08:52 PM
LOL that happens to me during vaginal penetration!

Nice to see a lady keep her man smiling. :)

Whirler
02-12--2005, 05:36 PM
Nice to see a lady keep her man smiling. :)Hey, I think it's the other way round! :D

Paul
11-12--2005, 02:54 AM
I can understand why some people may be concerned about it being merely a power thing ... but why should sex always be on 'equal' terms?

Sometimes it's good fun either being in control or surrendering that control. As long as it's consentual then there aren't any rules to your role play. (not being equal can still be mutually enjoyable)

Lots of people enjoy it ... It isn't just a matter of one partner being too pushy and the other reluctantly agreeing to take it.

Even forgetting the power aspect ... It can be an enjoyable and different sensation*



*Disclaimer: or so I've been told

Atomik
11-12--2005, 09:53 AM
I can understand why some people may be concerned about it being merely a power thing ... but why should sex always be on 'equal' terms?I have no problem with the idea of domination within the confines of an equal and honest relationship. The problem arises when power is used to exploit and exert control. To a large extent, women are still seen as passive sexual objects in our society. Even where they're sexually dominant, the perception is usually that they have power because it's been handed to them by the man.

Anusha
20-12--2005, 09:19 AM
Even where they're sexually dominant, the perception is usually that they have power because it's been handed to them by the man.



Now thats just taken the edge off the fantasy..:mad: ;)

I'm not sure that many relationships are predominantly one sided... when playing the power thing i imagine it swings both ways... and it can be as much fun either way..... but as for the thread topic :o ...i dont know... i think i'd need a bit of persuading to try it (or shit loads of alcohol) but the thought doesnt make me recoil in horror... if it feels right at the time anything is ok i guess...well..almost anything.

Dan
13-03--2006, 04:48 PM
definitely both ways i love it lol xxxxxxx Dan

scarlett
13-03--2006, 04:52 PM
if it is between consenting adults...do whatever lights your candle:D

Exedous
13-03--2006, 04:55 PM
if it is between consenting adults...do whatever lights your candle:D
Parden the pun...:harhar:

:patch:

Dan
13-03--2006, 04:55 PM
do any girls or guys masturbate their asshole?

Exedous
13-03--2006, 04:58 PM
No..i dont, but i had a partner, who found my G spot..up there, that threw me over the edge....:whistle:

:patch:

Dan
13-03--2006, 05:11 PM
lol kl well i do its great but im absataining for all cos of lent