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josh
13-11--2005, 03:54 PM
I often wonder about peoples obsessiveness with sex. Sex sells. It is one of the biggest industries in the world. It is focus of one of the oldest professions in the world. Everyone does it, or wishes they do.

Yet I have to ask, isn't it really just over-rated? Personally I compare sex to a plate of some food that look and smells delicious but then you bite into it and find it is actually quite bland.


I thought I'd bring it up here - it's a worthwhile topic for debate methinks..

stormypagan
13-11--2005, 04:02 PM
Can't get enough myself hehehe!!

But not into the sex industry and porn at all!!

Personally I LOVE SEX and it isn't all bland at all if with the right person :D

Try Tantric sex and get both carnal and spiritual :)

Atomik
13-11--2005, 04:17 PM
I think it depends on who you're doing it with. Sex with someone you don't care about can be little more than a posh wank. Like the old saying goes.... a good shit's better than a bad fuck :D

Firinne
13-11--2005, 04:42 PM
I tend to liken sex to conversation, with the right person you can do it for hours and never get bored, touch on things you'd never really considered before and weave it all into a wonderful tapestry of mutual soulful expression. With the wrong person ... I'd agree with Dok's comments, it's just mutual masturbation.

Perthite
13-11--2005, 04:55 PM
sex, overrated? BWAHAHHAHAHAHA

sex=top drawer:D

josh
13-11--2005, 07:53 PM
do you think we have good conversation firinne?



:whistle:

matthew
13-11--2005, 07:56 PM
Everythings overrated..

Dapablo
13-11--2005, 09:24 PM
... I'd agree with Dok's comments, it's just mutual masturbation.

Aw, that was one of my lines. Didn't have a conversation with you at a party 14 years ago. ? No, checked your age, probably not :)

Used to disrespect the concept, but now I think so what ? as long as both parties are aware, not always the case.

Is it not usually the case that something yearned for will dissapoint on acquisition. Another, the chase is always better than the kill.

Refering elsewhere, sex will succeed when emotions are aroused enabling us to share each other, without that mutual connection it will only be base and empty. Aaaaah if only. :)

Firinne
13-11--2005, 10:06 PM
do you think we have good conversation firinne?

:whistle:

I think we have good banter, I'm not sure what the sexual equivalent is ... a chocolate covered pillow fight maybe?

There you go Josh, that mental image will keep you going for months :wink3:

Firinne
13-11--2005, 10:14 PM
Used to disrespect the concept, but now I think so what ? as long as both parties are aware, not always the case.

Is it not usually the case that something yearned for will dissapoint on acquisition. Another, the chase is always better than the kill.

Refering elsewhere, sex will succeed when emotions are aroused enabling us to share each other, without that mutual connection it will only be base and empty. Aaaaah if only. :)
I think the real problem is that without that connection there can still be intense emotion, sex has an immense power to open us up and even when there's an agreement that there's no deeper meaning it's easy for one person to slip into having feelings for the other, or for issues to be unearthed and replayed through the experience. For people with low esteem the chase is often the act itself, and no matter how emotionally unhealthy they'll keep repeating it over and over again. I think most of the world's accepted that money can't buy you love, but a lot are still labouring under the impression that sex will.

I hear what you're saying on the disappointment front though, it's rare for the act to live up to the build up, but when it does ... :woohoo:

zig zag
13-11--2005, 10:25 PM
I don't think sex is over-rated as such, but I think there are definately some people that spend way too much time thinking about it and putting a lot of energy into trying to get it, almost to the detriment of other things in their life.

Dapablo
13-11--2005, 10:26 PM
I think the real problem is that without that connection there can still be intense emotion, sex has an immense power to open us up and even when there's an agreement that there's no deeper meaning it's easy for one person to slip into having feelings for the other, or for issues to be unearthed and replayed through the experience. For people with low esteem the chase is often the act itself, and no matter how emotionally unhealthy they'll keep repeating it over and over again. I think most of the world's accepted that money can't buy you love, but a lot are still labouring under the impression that sex will.

I hear what you're saying on the disappointment front though, it's rare for the act to live up to the build up, but when it does ... :woohoo:


Tips his hat. :)

josh
13-11--2005, 10:31 PM
I think we have good banter, I'm not sure what the sexual equivalent is ... a chocolate covered pillow fight maybe?

There you go Josh, that mental image will keep you going for months :wink3:



Chocolate covered pillow fight?!! hardly.. talk about wet fish.. :(



there are definately some people that spend way too much time thinking about it and putting a lot of energy into trying to get it, almost to the detriment of other things in their life.

definately - but is that not because everywhere yuo go, every advert you see, every film, every TV program - is all obsessed about sex, its the topic of everything, its all-pervading. How can you be blamed for wanting it when you see people supposedly enjoying it so much everywhere you go..

Dapablo
13-11--2005, 11:29 PM
but is that not because everywhere yuo go, every advert you see, every film, every TV program - is all obsessed about sex, its the topic of everything, its all-pervading. How can you be blamed for wanting it when you see people supposedly enjoying it so much everywhere you go..

I don't think the desire would vanish with the removal from advertising. You can decry its imagry as enticement, but I believe it is just a reflection of ourselves anyway, we seem to be easier about the subject, if we were not then the images would disapear again.

Firinne
13-11--2005, 11:43 PM
Chocolate covered pillow fight?!! hardly.. talk about wet fish.. :(


Sheesh, youth of today ... no imagination!! :harhar:

Dapablo
13-11--2005, 11:50 PM
Sheesh, youth of today ... no imagination!! :harhar:

Yeah, I couldn't believe it, working for me though. :)

zig zag
13-11--2005, 11:55 PM
definately - but is that not because everywhere yuo go, every advert you see, every film, every TV program - is all obsessed about sex, its the topic of everything, its all-pervading. How can you be blamed for wanting it when you see people supposedly enjoying it so much everywhere you go..

When I made my comment I was thinking more along the lines of what Firinne said about those with low self-esteem and getting obssessed with the pursuit of sex.

But, for everyone else, no, I don't think you can be blamed at all. It's everywhere and the less you get it, the more you seem to want it. It's reached saturation point I think. In fact, it's just one big wet patch on society :)

Lesa-Marie
14-11--2005, 12:33 AM
I think the real problem is that without that connection there can still be intense emotion, sex has an immense power to open us up and even when there's an agreement that there's no deeper meaning it's easy for one person to slip into having feelings for the other, or for issues to be unearthed and replayed through the experience.

Couldn't agree more! In fact, I think it's exactly what I've been going through. :( Mistakes you make eh for a passionate fuck haha...

Dapablo
14-11--2005, 09:55 AM
In fact, it's just one big wet patch on society

Tickled me. Nice one. :)

Firinne
14-11--2005, 09:57 AM
Yeah, I couldn't believe it, working for me though. :)

Glad to be of service sir ;)

Firinne
14-11--2005, 09:58 AM
Couldn't agree more! In fact, I think it's exactly what I've been going through. :( Mistakes you make eh for a passionate fuck haha...

Yup, been there myself a couple of times ... not a fun situation to be in at all.

*hug*

Atomik
14-11--2005, 10:13 AM
Glad to be of service sir ;)Oi. No turning tricks on the boards please :harhar:

Firinne
14-11--2005, 10:26 AM
Oi. No turning tricks on the boards please :harhar:

Spoilsport. Do I have to give the weasels back? :whistle:

josh
14-11--2005, 05:05 PM
Can we get back on topic please? Firinne, I can't believe you are sullying my Really Mature post - especially after all the effort I went to. :mad:

Firinne
14-11--2005, 07:07 PM
Can we get back on topic please? Firinne, I can't believe you are sullying my Really Mature post - especially after all the effort I went to. :mad:

Sorry dear, I'll behave ;)

I think the importance of sex is attached to different aspects by different people, so I think for the truly mind blowing variety you're better off if you're on the same wavelength where those things are concerned.

Exedous
23-11--2005, 12:01 AM
"Sex is like a gun with one bullet, you can walk around all day, lookin for that one special person to dump your bullet shaped load into.........when you do, you dont only lose your bullet.....they take your f***n gun as well.................so kid, if your all hung up on havin sex....id get yourself a mule......"

Quote courtesy of Best in the West.

Sex sells sex, i love the closness that sex gives, but i will never again trust a mortal....im gonna find me a dog.

Hhahahahahahahah

Ghost