Just raising my head above the parapet here. I'm never sure how sound my hippy credentials might be, but my boyfriend could vouch for the gay part. I don't have much interest in the so-called "scene", but manage to haul myself along to get involved in a number of gay human rights campaigns.
Someone mentioned Gaydar. I suspect it would have limited value in this search unless it has changed a lot since the time I was a member. It was always more of a meat warehouse.
Although I have yet to meet face-to-face with anyone else here (not always for want of trying) I would be happy to try and meet others at a social gathering of some kind.