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Thread: Do you think your personality changes as you get older.

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    Do you think your personality changes as you get older.

    This has kind of come to the fore today, I mean do some people never change and are kind of lucky they stay sort of young, or realisticly do things change you. be it financial, life, grit, non grit, i external or internal shit.

    ie i think i am quite a bit differant from the lad i was 10 years ago and 15 years ago.

    a primary school in the last years i had a lot of mates and was quite a social person an a par with my peers a good socialiser, leap forward to secondary they went to a diferant school to me and i was bullied and a bit downtrodden and the same went for college,

    get to 19 suddenly i have a job a car and i ve taken up bodybuilding and i guess i still had issues going on in my head still doubting myself but somehow ladies liking me, which i find odd, forward 10 years i am in an out of relationships building my house and a lot of negative shit building up, forward a few more and i am more in a sort of in a comfortable groove which i like to get out of now and again, however i just find if i work with lads younger than me they seem to like the most inane stuff that doesnt matter, (ie radio 1 twitter and all that bollocks) but i am sure i liked the same possible innane stuff they did when i was younger, maybe setting up the radio to 1 irritated my older workmates then?

    nowadays i must have got old, i used to be all radio 1 then it was 2 for a bit now its four and bbc 4 or planet rock, almost like i refuse to be part of popular culture or be pigeon holed, as this or that but when i was 19 i wanted to be part of this buzz this thing in towns this noise this clothing to fit in, but as you get older you refuse to care or is that just me.

    read a bit on the net about this and freud said your personality is created in the first 5 years of your life, maybe thats so but experience and just general day to day stuff must change you.

    If you went to a school re union would you feel the same . i would worry i felt like the tall lanky kid getting kicked in again, or would i? would i be more confident strage shit what you think about sometimes.


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    Buy the look of it lifes made you what you are today. Just dont look at it in a bad way. And dont let others change you be uer seft. I no i spent years tryin to be what others want. Now think fuk em much happy . And yep every changes over the years. Just be happy...
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    Yes Gee,i do think that{ SOME} Peoples personalities change as they get older {Mature}
    Some for the Better and some maybe Not for the Better .
    Does anything in life realy matter as long as the Kettles still working .

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    P.S.

    Some peoples Personalities Change depending on what Time of the Day it is ,
    But I reckon there bordering on just being Shallow
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    Does anything in life realy matter as long as the Kettles still working .

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    I think peoples basic personality stays with them through life, but the way we are treated by other people and life can change what parts of that personality become more powerful. I think we can redress the balance with attention and effort, but a lot of the time I think we are just finding ways to cope with our situations.

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    Originally Posted by Enigma's mum
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    I think peoples basic personality stays with them through life, but the way we are treated by other people and life can change what parts of that personality become more powerful. I think we can redress the balance with attention and effort, but a lot of the time I think we are just finding ways to cope with our situations.
    Interesting, but i do think money or the persuit of it changes us all, unless we started off in life with a lot of it.

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    ps sorry i am being a little lazt not replying to everyone just my head is cotton wool and i am dozey. so i struggle at the mo

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    My Piscean Intuition tells me one thing Fred Gee.... and that is : you dont love yourself.
    We all go through the things you mention in terms of growing older etc--thats how it is.
    Over the years, I`m gone from not having,to having,to not having etc but looking back--- my basic personality has remained.
    Its interesting ...the First Five Years concept.
    In that respect---I had a very good childhood (without money and material things mind).
    Over the last few years, heck I`ve had some shit ...some self-inflicted...and the shit surrounds me as i type now.
    But somehow or other (as i`ve been told)... I have some sort of inner strength... I have survived..and will continue to do so.
    In essense... I do love me, what and who I am,good and bad. Its me. ... ha! not in a vain Cowell-like way of course!!
    Maybe this is just a bad spell you`re having Fred... all of your posts of late have been very negative... try sit down and meditate...consider things, your life, what you seek and desire.
    Condsider what you have... and how that comparese to others.
    Life...is essentially a fucking good thing eh...what we make it.
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    hey strange thing is i have been more positive this year than any, just my ear injury thing really pissed me off but this thread isnt about me its about weather or not your personality changes. I think some people hardly change, like i know people who work in builders merchants in the yard are just the same now as they were 10 years ago, is this because there job is really that mundane they become instituionalised or is it because they just are who they are.

    I think travel broadens the mind but its out of the reach of most people, or financially or just work family commitments are to great. some people can totally change, i guess though we will all have "traits" that make us who we are.

    but i have heard of people changing due to them becoming succesful or rich, maybe our perception of who they are ie how we talk to people who have been successful changes. or if not changes we cant help it its human nature.

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    I think the personality is something that is evolving through our youth into the adult we become and through the adult we become results in the elderly person we'll eventually be..I think it's an ever moulding and evolving thing shaped by our existence, experiences and perceptions..our nature on the other hand could be what effects the experiences we have and always will have, and can you change someone's nature? probably not...
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    Originally Posted by Enigma's mum
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    I think peoples basic personality stays with them through life, but the way we are treated by other people and life can change what parts of that personality become more powerful. I think we can redress the balance with attention and effort, but a lot of the time I think we are just finding ways to cope with our situations.
    Definitely...exactly what I was trying to say
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    To a degree. I'm still basically the same person with the same views, a little more confident and have certainly learned a lot along the way. .....still am. I worry less than i used to and am certainly happier on the whole. One thing that has definitely changed though is my temperament. I used to have a really bad temper and love a good fight (verbally) now I hate confrontation and rarely lose my temper.
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    mine definitely has as life keeps takin chunks out of me :-(
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    Also sometimes people have bigger journeys than others in their personality. Since a lot of its formed by your very young experiences, some people who had the wrong influences growing up and therefore behave wrongly, can later in life learn and therefore seemingly 'change character' through their evolving..totally get the taking chunks bit atm in my life, but I'm hoping they will heal and grow back
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    Life can deal out a variety of different Cards for us to Play ,
    Iff we have unfavourable cards then its up to us to try and change them ,iff we cant then don't play those cards ,move on ............
    Does anything in life realy matter as long as the Kettles still working .

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    I've noticed myself and others personalities change as they get older, but I sometimes wonder if it is because they have got older or because of their life experiences? Perhaps more life experience means you handle things differently/react differently?

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    We become our age, there is no choice in this, its a function of time.
    How we judge ourselves is the harsh part, but ive learnt to stop judging myself because its a hiding for nothing, i mean what do we compare ourselves to? Family members? Friends? Social norms?

    Often we find ourselves taking a look inwards when someone/something has derailed us, for which my personal remedie is to fire up the lathe and distract myself in a hobby until my mind has settled.

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    thinkin bout it . The shit you get in life dont make you who u are. The way you deal with it does. And life its seft helps . I left school money was to bee all and everythin. Fell off motorbike at 2o arm fell off and other bits too. When from job to job money waz bee all again. Move on 25 years been in some right shit. Now its happyness. Got wife kids own my own place. Work with ex cons who show me what life could hav been like. Got some great mates dont giv a shit bout money im happy. So it goes to show the life you lead makes you in my eyes anyway.
    bet me ,bet i can.

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    Short answer: Yes.

    In the nature vs nurture question I see it as a seesaw. The percentage of nuture's influence is larger when younger but nature's influence asserts itself more as we age. i.e. we are programmed, then we become our own programmers (with some deprogramming needed sometimes!).
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    Yes I think we do. I care less what people think of me not than I used to and am less tolerant of bullies and fools.

    But i'm not sure the inner soul of the person changes,if that makes sense
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    Yep, I have found i am not the same as ten years ago, people just change over time. I think it is the main reason why people drift away from each other, they don't share the same similarities anymore.
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    Certainly. For example, I am less prone to necroposting.
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    Originally Posted by Brynhyffryd
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    Certainly. For example, I am less prone to necroposting.
    We were all n00blars once
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    He has a point about the necroing. Though it's an interesting thread that deserves rejuvenating. I'm still hopeful the bumsex thread gets a few more years of posts, I'm sure there are a couple of new members that might have interesting things to say.

    To the original question: is personality the same as opinions? If not then it must be related. My opinions changed a lot following escaping my parents and they continue to grow in the same direction away from the more established views of the country. Whether that reflects a personality change I don't know.

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