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Thread: Becoming a Recluse

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    Quote Originally Posted by essexcamper View Post
    Do others feel like this or am i becoming a recluse....
    Both, probably.
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    Could be that, too. That's one thing I do miss - having a laugh. You can't beat it, although I sometimes make myself laugh when I'm home alone.

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    I thought that there was something funny about you
    anything is possible,that my friends is a mathematical certainty ;-)

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    I'm starting to think that, too!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_bee View Post
    Could be that, too. That's one thing I do miss - having a laugh. You can't beat it, although I sometimes make myself laugh when I'm home alone.
    Good weed can do that!


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    Very true, sooty!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sootyfoot View Post
    Good weed can do that!
    What, cause social isolation? I'm sure it can, if you don't share it!
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    I have always been happy with my own company, something to do with growing up as an "only" child, you tend to be self sufficient as a person.
    " Does not suffer fools gladly!"
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    When i am off work I can stay in the house for days and not bother with people, content in my own company i am. I don't mind people in small doses, but being around people constantly I find irritating, I like the peace and quiet. People keep saying that humans are social creatures, I think i disagree, it's an overrated idea. So I might be a bit of a part-time recluse I think.

    *runs off back to mountain hermit cave*
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    so pleased to read this I thought I was the only one lol x
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    In my previous living situation sometimes the only interaction was with my customers. I started to hate it if no one come I didnt leave the building.

    I am quite an introvert at times. I need to be wasted to dance at a party/in a pub. I enjoy time to myself but since moving into my van I have seen so much more of my family. I'm looking forward to weekends away now my finances are settling down.

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    Quote Originally Posted by essexcamper View Post
    ... It seems like a chore to go out to see people. Do others feel like this or am i becoming a recluse....
    Yes and who knows?

    I wonder if most of us who spend most of our time on our own end up withdrawing still further. In my case it is not so much the interacting with people that I don't like so much, it's the thought of having to do it. Then I think of things I could be doing instead and don't do them either.
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    Huh, I can't join this club as I went out today to visit Sooty.

    Admittedly, I'm back home now, sitting by the fire and smug in that I have completed my social life for another week or so.
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    I can relate to so much in this entire thread, it's like I've found my long lost relatives! Quick, lets all run off again and enjoy our own company some more!

    This struck a particular chord with me though

    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_bee View Post
    I get bored being out, to be honest. Particularly "nights out" and that kind of thing. I have nothing to wear, can't be bothered to dress up, and end up looking at my watch, praying it'll all be over soon!
    I'm ok with just going round someone's house, where I can drink coffee and slob around.
    People keep telling me that i'm stuck in an unhealthy rut and I need to get out more and socialise. WHY? I'm genuinely comfortable doing my own stuff mostly on my own, but somehow that's just weird?
    I'm glad I read this thread, it's cheered me up no end knowing i'm not alone wanting to be left alone.
    It's no use shouting about who's to blame, when all that counts is how to change...
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    Quote Originally Posted by essexcamper View Post
    I live in a motor home on a driveway. Sometimes if not working I dont go outside all day and i love it. I never seem to have enough time to myself. I have good internet and electric hook up, cctv to see if anyone outside. It seems like a chore to go out to see people. Do others feel like this or am i becoming a recluse....
    Whilst i get the not interacting with people bit, i dont think i could stay in a van all day. Its bad enough stuck in the house if its raining, if i was in a van i think id have to have something different to look at every few days.
    I could happily walk with the dog without anyones company for hours though. Can you be a recluse and still go out so long as you dont see anyone?
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    Quote Originally Posted by parrotandcrow View Post
    Huh, I can't join this club as I went out today to visit Sooty.
    Are you sure you cant? This is similar to nomadicrt's pathologically unsociable thread - I actually enjoy the company of interesting people, yet at the same time i could quite happily avoid them. I also get to a point in peoples company where i just want to be on my own, no slight on the person im with but ive just had enough. The amount of people who take offence at this also means that its sometimes easier just to avoid them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by marshlander View Post
    Yes and who knows?

    I wonder if most of us who spend most of our time on our own end up withdrawing still further. In my case it is not so much the interacting with people that I don't like so much, it's the thought of having to do it. Then I think of things I could be doing instead and don't do them either.
    Yeah totally sames lol

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    Apart from going shopping i dont see anyone at all normally.Once a month i might see friends.Im never ever bored but i get sick of being told i should get out a socialise more ...why?..and do more with my life and get a proper house....no, fuck off I like the way i live thank you....most people are too busy talking about themselves and how fabulous their own life is to even bother asking about my life and what i actually do so being bored to death with their exploits doesnt really fill me with enthusiasm for socialising.I get invited out to friends and they spend the entire evening playing games on their pc ! I dont really have enough hours in the day doing my own things so having to socialise is just a major inconvenience and highly over-rated and often involves spending money on things i dont want -like meals out that i could cook better myself for a tenth the cost.People free zone please.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lonesomestranger View Post
    People keep telling me that i'm stuck in an unhealthy rut and I need to get out more and socialise. WHY? I'm genuinely comfortable doing my own stuff mostly on my own, but somehow that's just weird?
    Tell those people to do all their socialising sober and see how long they last. A lot of socialising is done under the influence of alcohol/drugs which makes it fake anyway. I thought for years that going to the pub was great, until I stopped drinking, when I realised its actually really dull..

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    Quote Originally Posted by NomadicRT View Post
    Apart from going shopping i dont see anyone at all normally.Once a month i might see friends.Im never ever bored but i get sick of being told i should get out a socialise more ...why?..and do more with my life and get a proper house....no, fuck off I like the way i live thank you....most people are too busy talking about themselves and how fabulous their own life is to even bother asking about my life and what i actually do so being bored to death with their exploits doesnt really fill me with enthusiasm for socialising.I get invited out to friends and they spend the entire evening playing games on their pc ! I dont really have enough hours in the day doing my own things so having to socialise is just a major inconvenience and highly over-rated and often involves spending money on things i dont want -like meals out that i could cook better myself for a tenth the cost.People free zone please.

    Spot on
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    Quote Originally Posted by emmadilemma View Post
    Tell those people to do all their socialising sober and see how long they last. A lot of socialising is done under the influence of alcohol/drugs which makes it fake anyway. I thought for years that going to the pub was great, until I stopped drinking, when I realised its actually really dull..
    It's an animal pack instinct, to join in or feel left out on ones own or so it seems to me. Going to a do and staying sober as I had a way to drive home was always most illuminating as alcohol takes over your friends and unless you're drunk as well they turn into muppets and laugh crazily at the stupidest of things. I no longer have that instinct and with age my values have changed. No more speaking to the big white telephone, if it's sex, there's all night and nothing to prove or talk bollux about and on my own I go at my pace or dogs pace and where I want.
    Not all who wander are lost
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    Quote Originally Posted by NomadicRT View Post
    Apart from going shopping i dont see anyone at all normally.Once a month i might see friends.Im never ever bored but i get sick of being told i should get out a socialise more ...why?..and do more with my life and get a proper house....no, fuck off I like the way i live thank you....most people are too busy talking about themselves and how fabulous their own life is to even bother asking about my life and what i actually do so being bored to death with their exploits doesnt really fill me with enthusiasm for socialising.I get invited out to friends and they spend the entire evening playing games on their pc ! I dont really have enough hours in the day doing my own things so having to socialise is just a major inconvenience and highly over-rated and often involves spending money on things i dont want -like meals out that i could cook better myself for a tenth the cost.People free zone please.
    100 % bang on


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    Quote Originally Posted by NomadicRT View Post
    ...spending money on things i dont want -like meals out that i could cook better myself for a tenth the cost.
    Pre-empt their invitations to eat out by inviting them to eat in. Get them to turn their phones off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_bee View Post
    I never get invited to parties - wonder why?
    Neither do I .
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