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Thread: Becoming a Recluse

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    Is it anything that we can help you with ?

    please please please do not be afraid to talk about it with us,for we all will do what we can to help stop you feeling bad.

    Love and light coming you way xx
    anything is possible,that my friends is a mathematical certainty ;-)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Alf M View Post
    I don't get much time to myself these days and it's very restorative to me.
    Been close to things going very wrong in my life over the last year, and I can feel that if it all goes bang there's a distinct chance I'd just take myself off to hide somewhere - probably smoking too much and living in a van - and that this probably would be the top of a slide into depression. However being on my own when settled in my mind is a joy
    I think living in a van and smoking too much saved me from depression Alf
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    Ha! I think a bit of that would be good for me, and I'm reasonably good in normal circumstances at balancing the isolation/socialising stuff, but the depression would surely be lurking there, as the only way I'd find myself in that situation would be my relationship going kablooiieee and being kicked out.
    Thanks for offer of support ic, but it's not really something outside factors can influence, I'm working my way through my bits of what's difficult and trying to keep open and committed to healing what's gone awry. Temptation to fuck it all off and become a van hermit is strong when things are hard, but I know that's my self-destruct system kicking in.

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    As soon as I enter my house especially after being a few days away or more, I am in a world of my own.
    We all lead different lives.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Alf M View Post
    Ha! I think a bit of that would be good for me, and I'm reasonably good in normal circumstances at balancing the isolation/socialising stuff, but the depression would surely be lurking there, as the only way I'd find myself in that situation would be my relationship going kablooiieee and being kicked out.
    Thanks for offer of support ic, but it's not really something outside factors can influence, I'm working my way through my bits of what's difficult and trying to keep open and committed to healing what's gone awry. Temptation to fuck it all off and become a van hermit is strong when things are hard, but I know that's my self-destruct system kicking in.
    All the better things in my life and I believe others can say the same come from shit happening. Even though it is hard to imagine it when we are going through hell,one day you will look back and laugh at that situation and thank it for making the person who you have become.
    Always hold that in your mind,that even though it may not be visible for you at times,there is always something positive awaiting you.
    Stay strong my friend xx
    anything is possible,that my friends is a mathematical certainty ;-)

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    the more I learn about human beings, and I am learning every day, the more I prefer to be alone -preferably with a good dog.
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    I for one do not view all shit happening that way.Retrospectively I frequently feel stupid for wasting so much time on no hope or very hard situations when I should have just gone.I wish I had realised then when I was young how short life really is as I have wasted very much time on people who were nothing more than bullys.users or emotional vampires.You know...come across a wounded sweet talker who you decide to help ,then 3 years later realise full well ...finally why they were sitting all fed up in the rain with their gear when you first met them?
    Quote Originally Posted by itinerant child View Post
    All the better things in my life and I believe others can say the same come from shit happening. Even though it is hard to imagine it when we are going through hell,one day you will look back and laugh at that situation and thank it for making the person who you have become.
    Always hold that in your mind,that even though it may not be visible for you at times,there is always something positive awaiting you.
    Stay strong my friend xx
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    i know exactly how that is cricket. I have wasted many years on inconsiderate idiots. I care about people who i bother with the only problem is that i bothered with people who were selfish and inconsiderate, id want to help people who were down or needed help but when i need help where are they? They are busy or uninterested. So i realized its time to make a change, and start to detach from people who dont have time or dont bother or show much interest or dont have much in common with. Energy and time is precious, if we direct it towards nicer people or doing more fulfilling things im hoping that can create a more meaningful life.

    Yes important lessons can be learnt from hard times, but the hurt and turmoil of hard times seems to outweigh the lessons often. But i guess its a useful psychological attitude to have, just like maybe everything happens for a reason, probably isnt necessarily true, but helps.

    I wish you well cricket, sounds like you really deserve good things, not everyone are idiots, just most! :-)
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    Fuck I think it just happened, van it is then.
    Just got to go drop an event shelter off to make some bloody room.
    2 sleeping bags, counter pane, flask of tea and a hot water bottle.

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    You are not on "self destruct"by doing this.You are accepting a truth and a need in yourself and unfurling your wings.Freedom.Fly high. Loads of good ones on ukhippy will be on screen at a click should you need support along the way.
    Quote Originally Posted by Alf M View Post
    Fuck I think it just happened, van it is then.
    Just got to go drop an event shelter off to make some bloody room.
    2 sleeping bags, counter pane, flask of tea and a hot water bottle.
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    Absolutely. The end of something is always the start of something new. The king is dead,long live the new king
    anything is possible,that my friends is a mathematical certainty ;-)

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    I am alone far too much. I guess that is how I am wired, like a misanthrope. Now I work from home so really am quite reclusive. I wish things were not like that but they are. When I am around people for too long I become tired and yearn to be alone again. When I am alone too long I want the company of others. There is probably something not right in my head I guess.

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    Something not right in your head?You sound pretty normal to me!
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    Quote Originally Posted by 100Waves View Post
    I am alone far too much. I guess that is how I am wired, like a misanthrope. Now I work from home so really am quite reclusive. I wish things were not like that but they are. When I am around people for too long I become tired and yearn to be alone again. When I am alone too long I want the company of others. There is probably something not right in my head I guess.
    I dont think theres anything wrong with it. I've just had a night were I needed to be alone. I've been pretty tired this week with work but I've seen loads of friends and family and today afterwork I just wanted some time on my own in my van. Feel loads better now.

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    HELL IS OTHER PEOPLE!
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    I'm crossing over to the 'meet the neighbours' crew - one of my spots seems a sociable one.
    Met a nice chap last night who's living in his horsebox while converting it.
    He gave/lent me a couple of LED stick-on lights since I moaned about it being gloomy in my van. Going to drop him round some sleepy tea bags later as he's strung out with insomnia (which I know well!).

    I'm a friendly recluse.
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    I sometimes wish I had never gone on line and had stuck to my guns, it was forced upon me by circumstances 8 or 9 years ago.
    I had always thought that computers were "the spawn of the devil" and nothing I have learned in the prevailing years make me think any different.
    I think sometimes I should have kept to myself, being alone is my natural state and one I am most comfortable with, I prefer mother nature and animals to people any day, and I intensely dislike the 21st century and all that that entails.
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    Quote Originally Posted by hagrid View Post
    I sometimes wish I had never gone on line and had stuck to my guns, it was forced upon me by circumstances 8 or 9 years ago.
    I had always thought that computers were "the spawn of the devil" and nothing I have learned in the prevailing years make me think any different.
    I think sometimes I should have kept to myself, being alone is my natural state and one I am most comfortable with, I prefer mother nature and animals to people any day, and I intensely dislike the 21st century and all that that entails.
    You are in control of your own destiny Haggy, all you have to do is unplug the pc


    Those Mountains that you're carrying, you were only supposed to climb.
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    Computers are ok, it's some of the bellends using them that's the problem


    The trouble is, you think you have time.

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    I quite like being able to pop online (and off again!) as and when it suits.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sootyfoot View Post
    You are in control of your own destiny Haggy, all you have to do is unplug the pc
    i will be going out more often when the weather improves, its nearly time for car boot sales to start.
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    I would have maxed out my credit card and sold my car for gun/supply's money,a good tale
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