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    There is something in the human psyche about one night stands and in my experience it attracts women just as much as men.

    Its about breaking the rules? I don't know, I don't actually think its about sex. I think its the ultimate naughty thing to do


    Maybe somebody else has a view

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    Originally Posted by Rick69
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    Rather a sweeping generalization. This may be your experience, but its not how i live my life.
    In my defence ...

    Oh okay
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    yes I was generalising.

    My badness knows no bounds
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    Originally Posted by essexcamper
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    Jules has lol
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    I'll bet
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    25 years
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    Originally Posted by zendaze
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    Im in neither camp.....separate space and separate bathrooms gets my vote toward successful monogamy.....outside of that paradigm Id rather be celibate.....
    I'm with you on the separate bathrooms
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    that sounds harmonious.

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    Originally Posted by Bernie
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    There is something in the human psyche about one night stands and in my experience it attracts women just as much as men.

    Its about breaking the rules? I don't know, I don't actually think its about sex. I think its the ultimate naughty thing to do


    Maybe somebody else has a view
    It's true
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    I've been proper naughty! Just for the naughty sake
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    It was fun everytime
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    DONT SHOOT!!!

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    ...........everybody has to sometimes break the rules.

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    Read this thread so thought I'd weigh in. Best sex I ever had was with my ex wife. The intimacy just got better the longer we were together. Then I found out she was shagging all my so called mates, and I mean ALL. Instantly went south. We still had sex, but it was awful. Should have cut and run when I found out, but I tried to save things for the kids' sake. Worst reason ever, all the kids saw was constant rows etc, but that's for another thread. Point is I never had a one night stand in my life. Never wanted one, but the ex loved em. Still at it now by all accounts, so definitely not a
    man thing in my experience.
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    Originally Posted by Bigbear67
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    Read this thread so thought I'd weigh in. Best sex I ever had was with my ex wife. The intimacy just got better the longer we were together. Then I found out she was shagging all my so called mates, and I mean ALL. Instantly went south. We still had sex, but it was awful. Should have cut and run when I found out, but I tried to save things for the kids' sake. Worst reason ever, all the kids saw was constant rows etc, but that's for another thread. Point is I never had a one night stand in my life. Never wanted one, but the ex loved em. Still at it now by all accounts, so definitely not a
    man thing in my experience.
    And That Be Why I Think This Topic/Thread ...Is
    A Totally "Each To There Be Own" Way Of Thinking And There Own Experiences" ...Be It Man Or Woman ...It Comes Purely Down To "Life Choices And Lifes Lifestyle" And Our Each Own Experiences We Have Found That Has Either Happened To Us Or Just By Simple Freedom Of Our Choices What We Either Like And Enjoy Or Not Like And Enjoy ...And What We Would Do ..Or What We Would Not Do .Etc....And Our Own Beliefs And Ways.
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    Couldn't agree more Danann. Also like to say I don't think its fair that society says it's OK for a guy to be loose and free with his affections, but frown on a lady for enjoying the same freedom. As long as both parties are down with it and nobody's getting hurt, then its nobody's business but their own. Dunno why people need to judge others for things that don't hurt or concern them.
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    Originally Posted by Bigbear67
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    Read this thread so thought I'd weigh in. Best sex I ever had was with my ex wife. The intimacy just got better the longer we were together. Then I found out she was shagging all my so called mates, and I mean ALL. Instantly went south. We still had sex, but it was awful. Should have cut and run when I found out, but I tried to save things for the kids' sake. Worst reason ever, all the kids saw was constant rows etc, but that's for another thread. Point is I never had a one night stand in my life. Never wanted one, but the ex loved em. Still at it now by all accounts, so definitely not a
    man thing in my experience.
    Bigbear - that is so fucking cruel and I really feel for you man.

    I've been crucifying myself because in 30 years of complete fidelity, my loneliness pushed me into an afternoon in the company of a lovely man who wanted to make me feel better.....and my guilt has been trying to kill me - but I won't let it.

    It wasn't penetrative, raw stuff (although if I extract myself from my current misery, I'd love that too....but I couldn't go that far at the time, my body just locked) - but it was just warm and erotic and consoling closeness and exploration. It has made me realise my long time trusted partner is a Calvinist masquerading as a bohemian rebel. For different reasons, neither can I quite believe how stupid I've been.......and continue to be in believing another persons self delusion.

    Need to stay strong and get off this beach instead of wasting any more precious time. So it took a one afternoon of rebellion and personal rule breaking to know the difference. I hang on to that memory to compare with all the years of wasted love, were warmth was never returned. I don't think I will ever give up my trust and independence again - so I will find precious moments wherever I may in future and if those moments are enduring, there may I stay.........but I'm not being taken for a fool again.

    Hope you won't either BB sounds like you deserve some really joyful moments to restore your sense of worth and happiness.......love ya for sharing dude........yes, pain and betrayal isn't choosy about gender
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    xxx
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    I've not been in a relationship for a while now, and the age factor sees a more considered approach, and opportunities either legit dating site - or not, a casual hook up would probably suit - (both parties)
    "And, in the end, the Love we take, - is equal to the Love, we make"

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    Originally Posted by Wolf Angel
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    I've not been in a relationship for a while now, and the age factor sees a more considered approach, and opportunities either legit dating site - or not, a casual hook up would probably suit - (both parties)
    That's for sure - how can you make promises when you might be dead tommorra - oh to enjoy every day and every joyful happening to the max.....and sod honourable misery.

    Yes the feeling is growing in me daily that staying stuck is the biggest crime you could commit to yourself and those around you - I am working my love to a pitch where I just will not care any more to be in any relationship that suffocates.

    Life in a van, where you can go anywhere and stay as long as it's happy, split if it's a downer (and I'm certainly no quitter BTW) - but is looking like the way to go, just one day at a time
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    xxx
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    Life in a van sounds like a winner. Like the outlook you have too, sounds a good way to live. As few complications as possible hope it comes good for you.
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    I'm not looking for anything in particular, just take life as it comes and that seems to be working out OK more often than not, I'm 51 soon though and have two failed relationships behind me, neither lasted more than 5 years so don't take my advise.
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